While the world is either for or against the concept of Valentine’s Day, many use the ‘commercialised’ excuse to avoid the day completely. You could just avoid the shops and still allow the day to be a date that you try to think about what you partner loves and how you can make them feel supported and respected… as well as loved.
I spent many years wishing that someone would bring me flowers but, eventually I grew my own. When I found a partner who actually sent me a dozen red roses on Valentine’s Day (special hey?!), I later saw the credit card statement where he had bought two (not so special when someone is hedging their bets.)
Many years ago, I heard that a good sex life starts in the kitchen. My take on the meaning is that, expecting someone to be instantly receptive to your needs doesn’t necessarily work if you have not been receptive to theirs, each day. If you actual ignore their needs all day long, begrudging and feeling disrespected and overworked will definitely get someone in a mood, though probably not The Mood.
The same applies to romantic moments. This might include Valentine’s Day or any other time you try to show your partner how you feel about them (or just do what you think they would like.) It is the thought that counts, after all.
It is the little things that make all the difference so, do the dishes, weed the garden, take an interest in their hobby, put down your phone and actually listen for a few dedicated minutes. Go for a walk, grab an ice-cream, hold hands, give each other a massage. The list is endless and no trip to the shop is necessarily required.
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