I’m giving myself this advice*, thought I’d share with you.
No matter what you are up against; no matter the worries that hold you down; no matter what external or internal pressures you are feeling:
- Make the most of what you have. Whether your problems are physical, spiritual, financial or judicial; take stock and you will be surprised what you can do within your abilities.
- Try to look forward more than backward. The lessons you have learned are important and equip you to move forward
- Find your passion and take steps toward it. You might not feel you can achieve your goals immediately, but learning more, joining groups of like-minded people, looking into courses, finding out if there is assistance available, etc might just get you closer and will give you more chances to develop a support network.
- Be flexible but don’t bend over backwards. Sometimes, if you are a caring person, there are people that will simply take advantage. Their needs are wants and they will never be happy with all you can give. Don’t bother putting your foot down too hard (that surprises people and tantrums often ensue); simply offer to do that “Sunday next week”. You’ll be surprised what they can do quite well for themselves.
- Find time for yourself but avoid the private pity pit. Too much introverted self assessment and dwelling on the negative thoughts in your head can send you on a downward spiral. I used to always say I would go into a corner for three days and come out fighting, but the troubles I have experienced in the past several years have well and truly put paid to that idea. There is a long drop waiting if you let yourself go there.
- Do things for others but without hoping for a reaction or reward – charity works are great to build yourself up and someone else, too.
- Spend time with others. Helps to keep perspective and just being with people can sometimes lift your mood and help you heal.
- Do not test others; they too are dealing with their own life struggles. We are all in this together.
- Accept that you are going to be disappointed easily when you aren’t feeling that chipper. Try not to let the feelings bring you undone. You’ve been through a lot and you know you are going to get through this, too. Be gentle with yourself, but firm!
- If you can’t smile; fake it. Just smiling can make you feel happier and will certainly get a better reaction from passers by than a glum face. Who knows, you might be making their day, too?
- Giving up is not an option.
Every day: learn something; do something for yourself; do something for someone else.
I am not a person who makes New Year resolutions. I find they often fail and, when I am feeling down and out and need to turn over a new leaf (pardon the cliché bombardment), I want to give myself the best chance of succeeding. However, every little bit counts toward a happier and fuller future. Failure just means you tried. Try again or try something else. Make excuses to experience all you can from life instead of making excuses not to do things. (Sometimes clichés work for me – little sayings to keep me positive)
Happiness, Sunshine and Positivity to you!!!
*Note: This advice is meant for me and I don’t profess to be qualified to give advice to anyone else. Just sharing my journey.